Are you aware of the word Patriarchy? Patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power, predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property. This was a type of system that was used in our society, but as time is passing the mindset pf people are changing.
Growing up in the 21st century is an experience, to say the least. It’s weird to say that I am neither pleased nor displeased with the way the world is headed, because the meaning of the word “weird” is hard to nail down. I’m 19+, I haven’t been around as long as many people, but I have had experiences in this male-dominated world that I still am not sure how to handle.
As much as we all (well, maybe not all) want to rid ourselves of the stereotypes that consume our being, it’s hard to do that when it’s all we know. Even into the 2000s, some still see a woman’s job as being inside the home, bearing and rearing children and not much more. She is the keeper of the house, she runs the errands, and is seemingly happy with her role in life. A man’s job is outside of the home. He isn’t required by society to take care of his children in any physical or emotional way because that’s what the mother is for. She fixes the children when they cry or are hurt, not the father. I do not believe that is true at all and I will argue with anyone who tries to tell me otherwise. Here is what I do know for certain: mothers and fathers are equal. Men and women are equal. They both have the ability to be successful in anything they try because they are not defined by these stereotypes.
Women do not belong in the kitchen. Men do not belong in the business world making all of the money. Women are quite capable of being just as successful as men when given the chance.It’s true. Women are capable of doing more than you think. Men: your wife or girlfriend could be more successful than even you will be. Then again, maybe that’s the reason people don’t want women out in the real world. They’re afraid that women can and will be more successful than the men in their lives and that the man’s ego will be so hurt that they’ll never survive it. Oh, but they will. They’ll survive it just fine. Their ego will be bruised for a while, maybe, but is that a justified reason to hinder his wife or girlfriend’s abilities?
As a women it is hard to stand back and watch the women not strive for greatness. I have a family, in which the male is responsible for all the money and work. Am I Happy with it? Nope. But as I gained the knowledge about it it was too late. It’s not just my mothers job to do the household chores and keep the house in place. It’s my Father’s too and he helps too. I’ve seen my father stay at home while my mom used to work to take care of us. And there is no shame in it.
I know many fathers who rear the children in the home better than the mother. They kiss their children and brush their hair after bath. Is there a problem with the household roles being shared between the woman and man? I guess No. Sharing the household and parenting responsibilities is important. It’s how the children learn how to live in the real world. If a boy sees his father out working and his mother at home, he’s more likely to want his wife to stay at home and him work even if she doesn’t agree. These stereotypes seem to cause more harm than good when you examine them closer.
Men are not the only people who keep this country or world running smoothly, Women nowadays are playing their part equally. I’ll leave you with some lyrics of Alicia Keys’ song “Girl on Fire” i.e.
Everybody stands, as she goes by
Cause they can see the flame that’s in her eyes
Watch her when she’s lighting up the night
Nobody knows that she’s a lonely girl
And it’s a lonely world
But she gon’ let it burn, baby, burn, baby
This girl is on fire……